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The Sideshow is scathing about certain silly conservative views of sex:

Another thing I wish is that complete strangers would not try to tell us how our motivations differ from what they believe their own are. This is a kind of expertise from ignorance: I assume that my reasons are better than your reasons, even though I don’t even know you, and I therefore make up the reasons you do the things I think you do, from what I imagine to be bad reasons, and therefore I am morally superior to you. I have sex for reasons of “sociability and community building”, but you are just using a consumer good. I am connected by bonds of love to my sexual partner(s), but you look at your partners as “an object that satisfies [you] more or less well.”

And when people throw these constructions at me, I can’t help the feeling that they are trying to reassure themselves that they really are unselfish in their motivations rather than just users. Either that, or they are trying to console themselves that they have virtuous reasons for their choice of putting up with some pretty crappy sex.