Last week Sandra stopped her treatment, she’s now getting only pain relief and the bare minimum of medication necessary to prevent nasty complications. She’s not eating much anymore and also drinking less, getting more tired and weak each day. Even so, it’s hard to say when it will all be over. Her doctors cannot say with any certainty how long it will take for her to die this way: it could be within the coming, it could take several more. This uncertainty is the worst aspect of the whole process, both for her, waking up each day still alive and in pain and for me too as, crude as it may seem, I would like it all to be over too. Every moment with her I’ll treasure, but the waiting and uncertainty is eating at me too. We’ve done what we can to deal with the aftermath, we’re as ready as we’ll ever be.
Phil
October 25, 2011 at 2:38 pmI’m so sorry, Martin.
I hope the end is peaceful and no more painful than it has to be. You’ll be in my thoughts in the hard days ahead.
Matt McG
October 25, 2011 at 2:55 pmWhat Phil said. I can only hope things go as well as they can now for both of you.
Robert
October 25, 2011 at 3:06 pmYou have my deepest sympathies. You’ve summed up the deathwatch very well.
Treasure the moments left — they’ll mean a lot to you later. Be there for her as much as you can — that means a lot to her now.
You’ve both been in my thoughts since this started, and you’ll stay there in days ahead.
Kimberley
October 25, 2011 at 4:48 pmThanks for letting us know. You both have been and continue to be in my thoughts.
Will
October 26, 2011 at 3:24 amI’m sorry to read this. I hope the end is peaceful and painless.
Menno
October 26, 2011 at 5:12 amThinking of you, my friends. Always.
apostropher
October 26, 2011 at 6:36 amI’m so very sorry to hear this, Martin. Remember to take care of yourself as well.
heebie-geebie
October 26, 2011 at 10:26 amI’m so sorry, Martin.
Martin Wisse
October 27, 2011 at 3:18 amThanks everybody.
chris y
October 27, 2011 at 10:43 amMartin, I’m so sorry. I can’t add much to what’s already been said, but Apo is right. Look after yourself too.
Barry Freed
October 27, 2011 at 3:08 pmI’m so very sorry for you Martin. You’ve been in my thoughts a lot recently and will continue to be. I don’t know what else to say. Peace.
Cian
October 28, 2011 at 2:26 pmI’m so sorry Martin. I know it doesn’t help, but I’ve been thinking about your situation a lot recently. Life isn’t fair.
Don Fitch
October 29, 2011 at 4:13 pmSadly, may it be over soon.
Greg Morrow
October 29, 2011 at 10:26 pmMy truest sympathies.
vic
November 1, 2011 at 7:13 amStill thinking of you both.
Robert
November 3, 2011 at 6:51 pmYou’re both still in my thoughts.