Sandra Culley 20-10-1959 – 07-11-2011

Sandra died last night, as she was holding her son’s hand, as peacefully as could be expected under the circumstances. I had seen her myself only a few hours before when she still looked as if she could last a couple more days at least. She had said to me she wished it would be all over soon, but I don’t expect she thought it would be over this soon…

I’m glad she’s no longer in pain but I wish things could’ve gone differently.

41 Comments

  • Reinder Dijkhuis

    November 7, 2011 at 3:21 am

    You will be in my thoughts today as you have been these past few weeks.

  • Rona Dijkhuis

    November 7, 2011 at 3:23 am

    I’m Reinder’s wife. Over the last weeks your struggles have been on our lips. You have been in our thoughts warmly and we send our deepest condolences.

  • Julie Ellis

    November 7, 2011 at 4:03 am

    Oh honey… Been thinking of you both a lot over the last few weeks and didn’t know what to say. Both me and Peter send our love.

  • Kimberley

    November 7, 2011 at 4:33 am

    So sorry.

  • Gideon

    November 7, 2011 at 4:40 am

    So very, very sorry to hear this. We’re thinking of you.

  • Jen

    November 7, 2011 at 4:43 am

    I’m so sorry. Both Gideon and I send our love too.

  • Menno

    November 7, 2011 at 4:43 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss. If there’s anything we can do from across the Channel, you’ve but to name it.

    Thinking of you as always.

  • vic

    November 7, 2011 at 4:45 am

    Both Menno and I send our deepest condolences to you – we’ve been thinking of you so often over the last few weeks.

    God bless,

  • Steve

    November 7, 2011 at 4:53 am

    I’m sorry.

  • Anna Feruglio Dal Dan

    November 7, 2011 at 5:19 am

    I am so sorry, Martin.

  • Robert

    November 7, 2011 at 5:20 am

    You have my deepest sympathy. If there’s anything I can do to help, just ask.

  • Charlie Stross

    November 7, 2011 at 5:37 am

    Much sympathy here.

  • Jos

    November 7, 2011 at 5:38 am

    So very sorry. My thoughts are with you.

  • Alan

    November 7, 2011 at 5:59 am

    So damned young. I’m so sorry for you, and for her son and other family.

  • Arwen

    November 7, 2011 at 6:05 am

    I’m so sorry. Thinking of you

  • Supermouse

    November 7, 2011 at 6:30 am

    I’m really so very, very sorry.

  • ciciaye

    November 7, 2011 at 7:29 am

    I’m very sorry to hear this. Our thoughts are with you and your family

  • colette

    November 7, 2011 at 8:04 am

    Our condolences to you and both families.

  • skidmarx

    November 7, 2011 at 8:30 am

    Hold on to the gladness she’s no longer in pain.

  • Barry Freed

    November 7, 2011 at 8:43 am

    I’m so sorry Martin. My deepest condolences to you.

  • Richard J

    November 7, 2011 at 9:36 am

    I don’t think there’s anything I can say but offer my deepest sympathies to you and your family.

  • James Davis Nicoll

    November 7, 2011 at 10:36 am

    I’m very sorry, Martin.

  • Corinne

    November 7, 2011 at 10:43 am

    Thank you for telling us, Martin. I hope you have people to talk to and help you keep on keeping on x

  • Nicholas Avenell

    November 7, 2011 at 11:45 am

    So very sorry to hear this, and sorry for your loss. And ours.

  • Karl Sherratt

    November 7, 2011 at 2:53 pm

    So sorry, Sandra was one of the Good Guys :( I feel for you alll.

  • Kelly

    November 7, 2011 at 3:06 pm

    So very sorry to hear this. Thoughts with you x

  • Liz Ashton

    November 7, 2011 at 6:41 pm

    I’m so sorry Martin. We haven’t seen each other in a long time, but Sandra was a lovely, kind and funny woman who will be greatly missed by a lot of people. I’m glad you and her son could see her.

  • Fran and John Dowd

    November 7, 2011 at 7:17 pm

    Our sympathies are with you.

  • Ingvar

    November 8, 2011 at 1:41 am

    I’m sorry, Martin.

  • Jay Vos

    November 8, 2011 at 3:51 am

    Martin, my condolences to you and Sandra’s son. Courage and strength in the days and months ahead.

  • Adrian Ogden

    November 8, 2011 at 7:44 am

    I’m so sorry. I hadn’t known this was coming; wish I could’ve sent some kind words while she could’ve heard them.

    Bye, Sand.

  • Sue McGee (nee Culley)

    November 8, 2011 at 4:26 pm

    Hello Martin
    I know we’ve never met but I was desperately saddened to hear that Sandra was gone. I ‘m so glad she had you and Simon with her.
    You have my email address and I would be grateful if you could email me.

  • Ali

    November 8, 2011 at 5:41 pm

    Oh bugger. I’m so sorry Martin.

  • Ken MacLeod

    November 9, 2011 at 1:48 am

    Sympathy and condolences, Martin.

  • Rosemary

    November 9, 2011 at 4:13 am

    I am so sorry for your loss, and failing to find the words to say it.

    We’d fallen out of contact rather over the years, but I’ll still remember how she taught me being a communist wasn’t evil when I was 17 :D

  • Jo Walton

    November 9, 2011 at 7:18 am

    May her memory be a blessing.

  • chris y

    November 9, 2011 at 8:02 am

    Much sympathy, Martin. Hang onto the good times.

  • Jo Dimery nee Culley

    November 9, 2011 at 3:18 pm

    Hi Martin. I know we’ve never met but, same as Sue, my condolences. I was expecting this, but it still came as a shock. I’m so glad she ended her days surrounded by your love, she deserved it.
    My thoughts will be with you & Simon tomorrow. I just wish Sue & me could be there too. xx

  • Chris Williams

    November 11, 2011 at 10:23 am

    Love never dies, comrade, but it’s a damn shame that people have to. My thoughts are with you.

  • Craig

    November 21, 2011 at 2:24 pm

    Hi Martin – My heartfelt condolences and love. I will remember the ’04 con and the Hippo dance….

    Sandra will be missed

  • Branko Collin

    November 29, 2011 at 2:08 pm

    Dit zuigt zo. Heel veel sterkte!

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