Something to remember her by

She wasn’t keen on having her picture taken and especially not on having them online, but it can’t harm her anymore. When she made the decision to stop treatment I put together an online album of the various photos we had, digital and otherwise of her and her family. For those of y’all who knew her (or not) and all y’all who have been so kind to share your sympathies today, it’s now open to view to show who she was when she was alive.

Sandra Culley 20-10-1959 – 07-11-2011

Sandra died last night, as she was holding her son’s hand, as peacefully as could be expected under the circumstances. I had seen her myself only a few hours before when she still looked as if she could last a couple more days at least. She had said to me she wished it would be all over soon, but I don’t expect she thought it would be over this soon…

I’m glad she’s no longer in pain but I wish things could’ve gone differently.

The science fiction helps



Sandra is not doing well, as is to be expected, but while she’s getting weaker, there still is the possibility that she can hang on a while longer, as her stubborn body fights her will to die… Not a nice position to be in. Sadly, there isn’t much we can do to help her, other than be there.

For myself, it’s all right as long as I don’t have to think too much.

Update: forgot to mention what also helps a lot is the well wishes and sympathy you all have shown over this. Thank you.

Books read October

Ten books read this month, but almost all finished in the first two weeks. Because of everything that happened this month I didn’t seem to have enough energy to read much. Hence also the five undemanding mysteries…

Carthage Must Be Destroyed — Richard Miles
A history of Carthage that attempts to escape the biased view of it we have gotten from the Romans and their later admirers. Sadly Richard Miles does not escape having to put Carthage’s later history in Roman context, simply because that history was dominated by wars with the Roman Empire, which ultimately of course destroyed it. Because I knew this outcome, it was difficult to keep on reading…

Omnitopia Dawn — Diane Duane
This is the science fiction equivalent of an Arthur Hailey business novel, but since this is the twentyfirst century, this is set in and around a MMORPG rather than a hotel or car plant…

A Wreath for Rivera — Ngaoi Marsh
Also known as Swing Buddy Swing, the better title in my opinion, this is another competent mystery revolving around the murder of a jazz musician.

The Mysterious Affair of Styles — Agatha Christie
The first Hercule Poirot story. It has been literally decades since I last read any Agatha Christie murder mystery, but what with everything that happened this month and me cataloguing Sandra’s books, I thought I’d give them a try again.

Mrs McGinty’s Dead — Agatha Christie
A 1950ties Poirot story, which starts with him depressed about “modern times” but revitalised when an old acquaintance asks him to investigate the murder of an old woman. even though her lodger has already been condemned for it.

Snuff — Terry Pratchett
His latest Discworld novel, starring Sam Vines out of his element and depth, as he’s out of Ankh-Morpork and has to play the laird on his wife’s estate somewhere in the country. Quality as always, but not the best novel he has ever written.

Troy and Homer — Joachim Latacz
An attempt at determining how much of The Illiad is based in fact, whether Homer’s Troy was real and the city Schliemann found was indeed the same city.

The Murder of Roger Ackroyd — Agatha Christie
Another early Poirot, the first of many in which Poirot has gone into retirement and not liked it. Best remembered for a twist ending, somewhat cheating.

Hickory Dickory Dock — Agatha Christie
Poirot is asked to investigate an outbreak of petty thefts in the lodging house of his secretary’s sister, but this of course soon turns into a murder investigation…

Trouble and her Friends — Melissa Scott
It took me ages to read this book, which had more to do with me than the book. As a second generation cyberpunk novel (published in 1994) this is quite dated in its ideas about what cyberspace would look like, but is saved by its politics. It’s the only cyberpunk novel I’ve read so far that comes close to imagining the attractions and dangers cyberspace and hacker culture can have for women and LGBT people.

book meme 2012 World Book Night — which have you read?

Below is the list of the twentyfive books chosen for World Book Night 2012. According to the site, these books “were selected partly by a public vote for the World Book Night top 100, with an editorial committee whittling down the list”, which may explain some of the odd nature of the list. I thought I’ll keep it simple for this meme: everything I’ve read is in italics, everything I’m not planning to ever read is struck out.

  • Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen
  • The Player of Games by Iain M Banks
  • Sleepyhead by Mark Billingham
  • Notes from a Small Island by Bill Bryson
  • The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
  • The Take by Martina Cole
  • Harlequin by Bernard Cornwell
  • Someone Like You by Roald Dahl
  • A Tale of Two Cities by Charles Dickens
  • Room by Emma Donoghue
  • Rebecca by Daphne Du Maurier
  • The Remains of the Day by Kazuo Ishiguro
  • Misery by Stephen King
  • The Secret Dreamworld of a Shopaholic by Sophie Kinsella
  • Small Island by Andrea Levy
  • Let the Right One In by John Ajvde Lindqvist
  • The Road by Cormac McCarthy
  • The Time Traveler’s Wife by Audrey Niffenegger
  • The Vanishing Act of Esme Lennox by Maggie O’Farrell
  • The Damned Utd by David Peace
  • Good Omens by Terry Pratchett & Neil Gaiman
  • How I Live Now by Meg Rosoff
  • Touching the Void by Joe Simpson
  • I Capture the Castle by Dodie Smith
  • The Book Thief by Markus Zuzak

Only four out of twentyfive read means this is not the list for me. A weird mixture of genres, established classics and recent blockbusters, yet not very diverse considering this is supposed to be for World Book Night. It’s certainly not all Dead White Males, but as far as I can tell these are all authors writing for/firmly established in the UK/US book markets.

To be honest, I never like this sort of list and if anything makes me less inclined to read a book, it’s when it’s being promoted as part of something like this.

(Meme found via Nicholas Whyte, originated by Ian Sales.)